How to Find Out if She’s Really The One
I recently saw the stat that almost 50% of marriages in North America end in divorce. This seemed completely insane to me. Do people not know who they’re marrying? And then I thought about it and realized that no, they probably don’t.
I recently got married and while I understand that the jury is still out on whether it’s going to last, I know that it will. I know it will for the very simple reason that I made sure to know who I married.
The first four years of our relationship consisted of 3 years of university, and one year of working. During the university years, we we’re essentially study partners with benefits. Engineering doesn’t leave time for much else. Then during the working year, we worked all day so only spent our nights and weekends together. Everything was very comfortable and normal.
And this is the time where a lot of couples get engaged. I can see how easy it would have been to take the fact that I enjoy spending a couple of hours every night with this girl, as confirmation that I should spend the rest of my life with her. Of course this is a great sign but I knew there was much more to learn about her, and us. We needed to get uncomfortable.
So I did the logical thing, I asked her if she wanted to go travel together for a year (I was very lucky to have a job that allowed me to work…